Sue’s Story - The 30 Day Challenge Has Changed My Life!
“I did it… I have just completed the 30 day dry hypnotherapy challenge. It was much easier than I thought and I’m amazed how good I feel! I really cannot wait for what life has to bring now”
A few months ago, we received a message from Sue, 52 years old from Liverpool. After her father passed away in 2019, Faith found it hard to cope. She accustomed herself to a glass of wine a night to ease the pain and forget memories that made her sad. However, that one glass quickly turned into two glasses. Then, before she knew it, she was finishing off a bottle of wine at night. Family get-togethers became a reason to drink more, especially because it reminded Faith of her dad. She sent us in her cry for help and was ready and willing with the perfect solution. Here is Faith’s story:
“Hi guys, I don’t know what to say other than I’m at my wit’s end. A few years ago my dad died and we were ever so close. Life is just not the same without him! What’s worse is I know he’d be seeing me now and he won’t be proud of me at all. I am drinking every night, it’s become my ritual. I get home from work, which is only a part time job in the mornings. Our Darren is the main breadwinner of the two. He runs his own building business and works long hours sometimes on weekends. God only knows where he gets his energy from, he’s 58 turning 28. I’m so lucky to have him in my life, he’s been such a rock these last two years since my dad’s passed.
He’s seen me happy and laughing one minute to floods of tears the next — a guy would do a runner or think a woman was crazy. Not Darren though, he sticks by side and hugs me encouraging me all the time it will be okay. Then he might pour me a cheeky glass of wine or brandy and hey presto I feel almost normal again! This is how I used to feel when I had a drink. Now I feel worse! I was up every morning with a sore head and feeling sick, I’ve got no energy. God knows how I make it work?! But I do, I do it for Darren — and for the kids and the grandkids. I barely even see the grandkids these days. I’m sure it’s because of Tracy and Mike, my two babies who are parents to 6 more of my babies. They spend less time coming to see me, probably because I’m drinking too much. Darren says it isn’t, but I know it is. He always tries to make me see the positive in things and tries lifting my hopes. I just don’t know how to, though? Oh Hugh, I wish you could help me!
When Darren’s working I see myself drinking even more. Recently, he’s been off for the last few months so it’s not too bad. Even though I’ve not seen a night without a drink yet, it’s not like the end of last year when Darren was working loads. I’d get home at say 2pm from my morning cleaning job, and have a quick bite to eat. By 3pm I’ve opened a bottle of wine and I’m pouring myself out a small glass, then another bigger one, then an even bigger one! Before I knew it I had polished a bottle of wine off before Darren’s even got in from work. Some days I’m completely out of it, fast asleep on the couch. Other days, I’m in a mess crying and listening to old records that remind me of my dad. I’d not make the dinner, not even the bed would be made. The house would be filthy and the wash basket overflowing. Poor Darren would get in from a 10 hour shift from work and have to cook his own food and wash his overalls ready for the next day. I’m completely useless and worthless at the same, that’s how I feel anyway. No matter how many times my husband tells me I’m not, I feel this way. I want to give up this habit where I’m drinking every day, I want to give it up once and for all! Darren goes back to work next week and I don’t want to see myself falling into the same habit of drinking even more and worse than I am now.”
The regular pattern of drinking that Sue fell into overcoming her feelings of grief when her father passed in 2019 is very common. When something unfortunate happens that we are not in control of, consequently we lose control of our emotions. Grief is something that affects everyone differently. Someone might be completely unphased at first, usually because they have gone into shock. This might happen if someone very close to you dies suddenly. However, the emotions are there and will soon appear when you experience what is called — realization.
Whatever happens losing someone, especially a parent, child or spouse is very difficult to some to terms with. It will release constant pain signals, not because of physical pain but emotional pain. It is not because of something present that we are scared, but in fact, the idea of something / someone not being present in our life inspires fear and pain. Really no matter what it is that raises these alarm bells in our brain that scream for help, whether it’s feelings of grief, pain, lack of self-confidence, anxiety or fear it will always lead us to search for that rapid pain relief. Alcohol is a substance we regularly turn to for pain relief. It inhibits a feeling of relaxation, as well as numbs the mind — that one can only describe as being drunk.
It is also readily accessible and available. If we take a walk down the high street there are bars, restaurants and supermarkets with shelves stacked full of it. As you pass a busy bar you see how people are gathered together laughing and happily socializing as they sip they’re cold alcoholic beverages. Alcohol doesn’t just numb the pain, but it will release tension and create a nice vibe between vibe. Until, of course…
You drink too much!!
This is where you find yourself falling off the rails, especially if you start to rely on alcohol everyday or every time you feel stressed, upset or anxious. Sometimes even boredom can influence you to reach out for a drink. This is not good for you. Not only is alcohol extremely bad for your health, but it will also slowly eat away at your mind leaving you negative, even more stressed and anxious than before, as well as completely dependent on it. When you develop a habit for drinking, which very often spouts from trauma or something which really upsets you like the loss of losing someone close to you. It can become a vicious circle, which starts off with that first drink then leads to another and another and another. Before you know it you’ve consumed way too much, you wake up hungover and lacking in energy so then you feel even worse than you did before. However, instead of breaking away and realizing that actually alcohol makes it worse, we turn to the bottle again. We always look for that instant pain relief, regardless of the fact that it might make us feel worse in the long run. Rather than consider strategies, which might not leave such a distinct mark or relief at the very beginning — which, overtime will work much better, much healthier at curing our pain relief. One example of this is meditation. We might meditate once and only get a small feeling of relaxation. However, if we practiced it everyday we’d be calmer than we could ever imagine.
In order, to inspire a positive frame of thinking we have to think in the long run. We cannot be greedy and expect to have it in just a few minutes. If we do experience this then it is only momentary, in which case it is misleading. In the case of alcohol, as well as other recreational drugs, even sugar, although we are given that momentary feeling of elation that initially numbs the pain; it is short-lived and an illusion. In the long run you will wind up feeling much worse.
Our program called the 30 Day Dry Challenge is the perfect way for you to break free from that control when alcohol starts to take a hold of you. It has been proven that the mind needs 30 days for an addiction or habit to disappear. Habits are formed in your subconscious, where your trauma and sad memories rest as well. This is why the two are inevitably connected. Therefore, an addiction to alcohol, especially with it being so readily available is really easy to develop. Once an addiction takes hold it is also really hard to get out of. However, scientific experiment has proven that in 30 days we can eliminate that habit. We set Sue on course for the 30 Days Dry and this was her reply:
“I did it!!....
I have just completed the 30 Day Dry Hypnotherapy Challenge. It was much easier than expected and I am amazed at how good I feel! I have more energy in the morning and throughout the day. I have even started an aerobics class in the afternoons, which I go to three days a week. I am honestly bouncing off the walls and I’m so happy. This has given me a new lease of life, honestly it has. I want to thank you for giving me this new opportunity in life, I do not think I could have done this on my own. I have even shed a few pounds as well!
However, most importantly it is seeing how the people around who I love and care about are happy to see me this way. I knew they were starting to get really concerned about me drinking too much. However, I always found myself making excuses to blank the thought that actually I drank way too much. I feel like I have been set free from that awful shadow that alcohol was having over me, clouding my eyes from the good things in my life. My husband, my kids and my grandkids are everything to me and they are my future. I miss my dad so much, but I realise now that living in the past is not the answer. In order to move on and make their life worthwhile I have to focus on the future. Alcohol was bringing me down, but also stopping me from appreciating what I have, rather than what I don’t have. I’m ever so pleased I contacted you for help and I just want to send in my gratitude for making this possible for me!”
If you feel that your drinking habit is taking control of your life and affecting the lives of the people who you love the most, maybe it is time to take a step back. Try out our 30 Day Dry Challenge today and take back control of your life where you can start building a future, rather than doubt it.