Sue’s Story - The 30 Day Challenge Has Changed My Life!

 

“I did it… I have just completed the 30 Day Dry Hypnotherapy Challenge. It was much easier than expected and I am amazed at how good I feel!”

 

A few months ago, we received a message from Sue, 52 years old from Liverpool. After her father passed away in 2019, she found it hard to cope. She accustomed herself to a glass of wine a night to ease the pain and forget memories that made her sad. However, that one glass quickly turned into two glasses. Then, before she knew it, she was finishing off a bottle of wine at night. Family get togethers became a reason to drink more, especially because it reminded Sue of her dad. She sent us in her cry for help and was ready and willing with the perfect solution. Here is Sue's original message to us:

“Hi guys, I don’t know what to say other than I’m at my wit’s end. A few years ago my dad died and we were ever so close. Life is just not the same without him! What’s worse is I know he’d be seeing me now and he won’t be proud of me at all. I am drinking every night, it’s become my ritual. I get home from work, which is only a part time job in the mornings. Our Darren is the main breadwinner of the two. He runs his own building business and works long hours sometimes on weekends. God only knows where he gets his energy from, he’s 58 turning 28. I’m so lucky to have him in my life, he’s been such a rock these last two years since my dad’s passed. 

He’s seen me happy and laughing one minute to floods of tears the next — a guy would do a runner or think a woman was crazy. Not Darren though, he sticks by side and hugs me encouraging me all the time it will be okay. Then he might pour me a cheeky glass of wine or brandy and hey presto I feel almost normal again! This is how I used to feel when I had a drink. Now I feel worse! I was up every morning with a sore head and feeling sick, I’ve got no energy. God knows how I make it work?! But I do, I do it for Darren — and for the kids and the grandkids. I barely even see the grandkids these days. I’m sure it’s because of Tracy and Mike, my two babies who are parents to 6 more of my babies. They spend less time coming to see me, probably because I’m drinking too much. Darren says it isn’t, but I know it is. He always tries to make me see the positive in things and tries lifting my hopes. I just don’t know how to, though? Oh Hugh, I wish you could help me!

When Darren’s working I see myself drinking even more. Recently, he’s been off for the last few months so it’s not too bad. Even though I’ve not seen a night without a drink yet, it’s not like the end of last year when Darren was working loads. I’d get home at say 2 pm from my morning cleaning job, and have a quick bite to eat. By 3 pm I’ve opened a bottle of wine and I’m pouring myself out a small glass, then another bigger one, then an even bigger one! Before I knew it I had polished a bottle of wine off before Darren’s even got in from work. Some days I’m completely out of it, fast asleep on the couch. Other days, I’m in a mess crying and listening to old records that remind me of my dad. I’d not make the dinner, not even the bed would be made. The house would be filthy and the wash basket overflowing. Poor Darren would get in from a 10 hour shift from work and have to cook his own food and wash his overalls ready for the next day. I’m completely useless and worthless at the same, that’s how I feel anyway. No matter how many times my husband tells me I’m not, I feel this way. I want to give up this habit where I’m drinking every day, I want to give it up once and for all! Darren goes back to work next week and I don’t want to see myself falling into the same habit of drinking even more and worse than I am now.”  

The regular pattern of drinking that Sue fell into overcoming her feelings of grief when her father passed in 2019 is very common. When something unfortunate happens that we are not in control of we tend to lose control of our emotions. Grief is something that affects everyone differently. Someone might be completely un-phased at first, usually because they have gone into shock. This might happen if someone very close to you dies suddenly. However, the emotions are there and will begin to appear over time in various ways. 

When we do feel the recurring ache of loss we can find ourselves searching for rapid pain relief, and alcohol is a familiar and easy solution. It creates a feeling of relaxation, as well as numbs us to some of the pain we're feeling (though this result is temporary).

Alcohol is also readily accessible and available. If we take a walk down the high street there are bars, restaurants and supermarkets with shelves stacked full of it. As you pass a busy bar you see how people are gathered together laughing and happily socialising as they sip their cold alcoholic beverages. Alcohol doesn’t just numb the pain, but it also releases tension and create a nice vibe. Until, of course…

You drink too much.

This is where you find yourself falling off the rails, especially if you start to rely on alcohol  every day, or every time you feel stressed, upset or anxious. Sometimes even boredom can influence you to reach out for a drink. This is not good for you. Not only is alcohol extremely bad for your health, but it will also slowly eat away at your mind leaving you negative, even more stressed and anxious than before, as well as completely dependent on it. It can become a vicious circle, which starts off with that first drink then leads to another and another and another. Before you know it you’ve consumed way too much, you wake up hungover and lacking in energy, so then you feel even worse than you did before. However, instead of breaking away and realising that alcohol actually makes it worse, we turn to the bottle again. We look for that instant pain relief, regardless of the fact that it might make us feel worse in the long run, rather than considering strategies which might not leave such a distinct mark or relief at the very beginning but that over time will work much better. One example of this is meditation. We might meditate once and only get a small feeling of relaxation. However, if we practice it every day we’d be calmer than we could ever imagine.  

In order, to inspire a positive change we have to think in the long run. We cannot be greedy and expect to have it in just a few minutes. In the case of alcohol, as well as other recreational drugs (even sugar) we may get a momentary feeling of elation that initially numbs the pain, but it is short-lived and an illusion. In the long run we wind up feeling much worse. 

Our program called the 30 Day Dry Challenge is the perfect way for you to break free from alcohol when it starts to take a hold of you. It has been proven that the mind needs 30 days for an addiction or habit to disappear. Habits are formed in your subconscious where your trauma rests as well. This is why the two are inevitably connected. Therefore, an addiction to alcohol, especially with it being so readily available, is really easy to develop and also really hard to get out of. However, science has proven that in 30 days we can eliminate that habit.

We set Sue on course for the 30 Days Dry and this was her reply:

“I did it!!....

I have just completed the 30 Day Dry Hypnotherapy Challenge. It was much easier than expected and I am amazed at how good I feel! I have more energy in the morning and throughout the day. I have even started an aerobics class in the afternoons, which I go to three days a week. I am honestly bouncing off the walls and I’m so happy. This has given me a new lease on life, honestly it has. I want to thank you for giving me this new opportunity in life, I do not think I could have done this on my own. I have even shed a few pounds as well!

However, most importantly it is seeing how the people around who I love and care about are happy to see me this way. I knew they were starting to get really concerned about me drinking too much.  However, I always found myself making excuses to blank the thought that actually I drank way too much. I feel like I have been set free from that awful shadow that alcohol was having over me, clouding my eyes from the good things in my life. My husband, my kids and my grandkids are everything to me and they are my future. I miss my dad so much, but I realise now that living in the past is not the answer. In order to move on and make their life worthwhile I have to focus on the future. Alcohol was bringing me down, but also stopping me from appreciating what I have, rather than what I don’t have. I’m ever so pleased I contacted you for help and I just want to send in my gratitude for making this possible for me!”

If you feel that your drinking habit is taking control of your life and affecting the lives of the people who you love the most, maybe it is time to take a step back. Try out our 30 Day Dry Challenge today and take back control of your life so you can start building a better future.

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